Me First!

One of the best things you can do as a parent is give yourself the me-time you deserve!

I spend the first hour in the morning, reflecting, praying my prayers, planing my day and/or blogging. It’s amazing how somethings so simple can be so powerful.As a result to my me-time, my thoughts are more organised, I see the path ahead more clearly, my tasks for the day are prioritised accordingly, I have more energy, I face the day with confidence and conviction that all will be well.

I used to simply jump out of bed, do the “urgent” things. Then the next “urgent” things. Then another “urgent” task would pop-up. Then I would procrastinate that there is too much things to do and too little time. Then I would take a TV or Facebook break. Then procrastinate again because a whole hour has past and I still haven’t done the urgent stuff…you get the picture.

In the photo: me and what I always look for in the morning, me, my book and my cup of coffee!

 

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Work Hard or Work Smart

I thought I was on the road to financial success. I have always worked hard. I got into a good university, studied hard, maintained my scholarship.

My older Sister, who entered college a year before I did, graduated a year after I did. She kept needing to use her street smarts, like befriending her professors whenever she felt that she wasn’t going to pass a subject.

I got the job immediately, got pirated by another company, moved up the corporate ladder as I moved jobs.

My sister would visit me at the office to borrow money for some businesses that she was trying, or to go out with her friends.

I always did everything “right” and minimised “failures”.

My sister tried so many things. She especially wanted to be her own boss. She had a handful of business successes and many many many more failures.

I guess it’s time for me to redefine what it takes to get to financial success. In the end, I was still an employee (before deciding to be a full-time Mommy-Therapist for my special needs twins) and my Sister was running her lucrative web-development, search engine optimisation and other online businesses while outsourcing the manpower she needed and living the life of the New Rich, by Tim Ferriss’ definition.

She was a risk-taker. I was not…yet.

She was a dreamer and created a path towards her dream, I was not…yet.

She was very creative and always one step ahead of the market, I was not…yet.

She was a problem solver, I was not…yet.

Though during college and first few years of work, I could have been mistaken for being the big, “responsible” sister, I’m glad that today, I have her to look up to and be my role model as I now venture into running my online business…finally! I too can be a risk-taker, I can certainly be a big dreamer and make things work that direction, I can be creative and trust me, if you are a parent, you are always a problem-solver!

In the photo: My sister and me. Every year she drives me to the Autism Treatment Center of America, a place for miracles. There, I get the parent-empowerment trainings I need. My journey with my twins have taught me to DREAM BIG and walk with them, blazing that path to their success. I know they will make it in life…and when it comes to financial success, I will too!

Celebrate the trying 

Above celebrating the achievement, CELEBRATE THE TRYING.  

Perfection does not come at once, our kids, our spouses and even ourselves, will try and many times, will fail. What’s important is that we keep trying until we reach success. “Celebrating the trying” will fuel our efforts and lead to success.

My Son with autism did not overcome speech impediments and begin to talk all in one day. First, I celebrated the fact that he looked at me, even for a split second.  Then, I celebrated his crazy words that didn’t mean anything.  Then I celebrated that he could tell me “cookie” if he wanted cookie, or I celebrated that he even looked at the cookie to indicate what he wanted. Then I celebrated his ability to spontaneously ask “I want blueberries”.  Then I celebrated his ability to say all of his needs like “turn off light” or “I want to sleep now.” Today I celebrate the fact that we can have a question and answer session, even if at times it seems repetitive or his answers might not be congruent. I celebrate his trying because I know his efforts today will lead to his success in one being able to hold a very meaningful conversation with me.  

In the photo are my 3 amazing kids. I talk of Nathan (middle of photo) because he is he one who needs the most help and thus, every progress his makes, big or small, are all BIG PROGRESS for me.
As for Nathan’s twin, Amor(on the left), celebrating all her good points has been helping her catch up with her peers. As for my youngest, Ian (on the right), I always celebrate and tell him that I know God must blessed me with him. God blessed me with all three kids!
Going back to my online business, I just got my first commission. Regardless of the size of the commission, that calls for a BIG CELEBRATION because I know that this rookie step leads to more learning and earnings to come!  

  

Miracles are made up of baby steps

I’ve learned this over and over again, as a Mommy-Therpist of my twins with special-needs. They didn’t learn to talk overnight we we having been baby steps towards their ability to have conversations with us. And they have been making amazing strides!

I am totally new at online business. We are working out which ads work best and which ads we will eventually boost. Nevertheless our “practice” ads went out and some people have signed up to workshops that the company offers! Hurray!!!
It does not matter it takes time to see if sales will be made…but hurray!!! I’m calling for a big celebration! At the rate we spend for ads, the rate we get attendees, the rate of interest to venture the online business, I calculate that for every $1 that I will spend on advertising, I can potentially earn $1.2. Hurray! I can make a profit!!!

That could sound like a small profit to veteran online business owners or to investors, but I’m super excited about it because this baby step is simply a stepping stone to my next step and I know adding up all the steps I will take in the future will get to my “miracle”.

What it takes to be Super Woman…or Man

Sometimes all it takes are fancy boots to feel like you’re Super Woman!

The truth is, there’s something even more simple than that, that will empower one to be Super Woman, or Super Man. That is simply to DECIDE what you want to be and do it!
My Son, Nathan (middle of photo) who has autism, and was unable to respond to his name, say anything meaningful or even look at people. After 3 years of me learning and applying play therapy, he now has spontaneous speech and really good eye-contact. He not only looks when you call him but will call people’s name when he needs something from them. He has come along way from severe autism and continues to climb a mountain. I empowered myself, got great training, and most importantly, I made the decision that I CAN DO what many experts in the field deem impossible.

It all started with a decision.

Running an online business could be challenging if you ask many who have tried and failed. That’s why I’m not asking them. I’m asking people to have done it and achieved success and I’m getting the right training for it. That reinforces my decision to get into this. I’m collecting evidence that will fuel my decision that: I CAN DO THIS, if they can.

And no, I’m not Super Woman who claims this will be an easy task. I am just a Mom who made a decision, take actions towards that decision and fuel that decision by reaching out to like-minded people.

Fully Present

If you cannot spend all that time with your kids, give them quality time. That is, even if all you had was 5 minutes in a day, give them your whole attention in that 5 minutes, be fully present for them.
Being fully present is what I have been learning as a play therapist for my son, Nathan, who has autism. It has also helped me deepen my relationships with all my kids. I give my typical child, Ian, very little time, compared to my special-needs twins.  However, I’m confident in the strong relationship he wants to build with me, simply because of the quality of the time I give him.

In the photo: I was in the playroom, doing play therapy for my Nathan, when Ian, popped in and wanted to play with us. I welcomed him to the game. He was so silly and engaging that Nathan kept asking him to be a monkey.