We have had our share of rough patches in our marriage. I was so busy raising the kids, providing therapy for my special-needs twins, researching on dietary and biomedical interventions heal the twins. Until my son with autism was 8 years old, I had to stay with him through the night because of his sleeping/agitation problems. In those days Hubby was coming home late from work. Relocation to a new country meant he needed more time to adjust to his new roles and longer commute time.
At the end of the day, hubby and I were just too tired and too busy to reconnect with each other. There must have been a year or two when I felt our marriage was stagnant. Even worse money issues started to pop-up as I wanted to spend more money on promising alternative autism interventions. Hubby was focused on saving, he feared we needed so much more to save, especially for our son with severe autism. Since our agendas did not meet, we kept on accusing each other of not doing the right things. It was ironic because we both had the same objective, to give our kids what they needed, yet the implementation of our goals seemed so different, even opposing.
Though there has been rough patches, in the end, the journey with my twins with special-needs has been a blessing and instrumental is keeping us working on our marriage and reevaluating priorities in life.
Moving on to the next chapter of our lives and the opportunity to build our own online business…I have to say, getting into this, has actually enhanced our marriage. Since he has invested in our business and I run most of the show, we always need “business meetings” to keep each other updated and align our business targets daily and weekly.
Those “business meetings” actually feel better than dates, that we haven’t had much opportunities to have. As newbies in the online business, we get excited all the little things: the ability to shift from being “employee” to “investor” and having a big control over the returns of our investment; creating our brand and our advertisements; learning the ins and outs of online marketing; seeing ad clicks and conversations; being ambitious about what the future holds for us, etc.
I’m relishing my blessings!
In the photo is our favourite business meeting spot, complete with popsicles from the mini-mart.