Now my 7-year-old Ian, is writing poetry.
“Apples are red not blue
Or not either the colour of poo.”
Amazing how poo, fart and pee is such a big motivation and gets kids to read and write a lot! When Ian was about 5 and rejecting his reading assignments, I got him to enjoy reading by looking for words like “we-we” then building it up to “dad we-we” or “I we-we” 😜. From that motivation. He picked-up his reading assignments again and today he does his homework alone and is even on his way to becoming famous author and illustration one day 😉
One of the best things you can do as a parent is give yourself the me-time you deserve!
I spend the first hour in the morning, reflecting, praying my prayers, planing my day and/or blogging. It’s amazing how somethings so simple can be so powerful.As a result to my me-time, my thoughts are more organised, I see the path ahead more clearly, my tasks for the day are prioritised accordingly, I have more energy, I face the day with confidence and conviction that all will be well.
I used to simply jump out of bed, do the “urgent” things. Then the next “urgent” things. Then another “urgent” task would pop-up. Then I would procrastinate that there is too much things to do and too little time. Then I would take a TV or Facebook break. Then procrastinate again because a whole hour has past and I still haven’t done the urgent stuff…you get the picture.
In the photo: me and what I always look for in the morning, me, my book and my cup of coffee!
Above celebrating the achievement, CELEBRATE THE TRYING.
Perfection does not come at once, our kids, our spouses and even ourselves, will try and many times, will fail. What’s important is that we keep trying until we reach success. “Celebrating the trying” will fuel our efforts and lead to success.
My Son with autism did not overcome speech impediments and begin to talk all in one day. First, I celebrated the fact that he looked at me, even for a split second. Then, I celebrated his crazy words that didn’t mean anything. Then I celebrated that he could tell me “cookie” if he wanted cookie, or I celebrated that he even looked at the cookie to indicate what he wanted. Then I celebrated his ability to spontaneously ask “I want blueberries”. Then I celebrated his ability to say all of his needs like “turn off light” or “I want to sleep now.” Today I celebrate the fact that we can have a question and answer session, even if at times it seems repetitive or his answers might not be congruent. I celebrate his trying because I know his efforts today will lead to his success in one being able to hold a very meaningful conversation with me.
In the photo are my 3 amazing kids. I talk of Nathan (middle of photo) because he is he one who needs the most help and thus, every progress his makes, big or small, are all BIG PROGRESS for me.
As for Nathan’s twin, Amor(on the left), celebrating all her good points has been helping her catch up with her peers. As for my youngest, Ian (on the right), I always celebrate and tell him that I know God must blessed me with him. God blessed me with all three kids!
Going back to my online business, I just got my first commission. Regardless of the size of the commission, that calls for a BIG CELEBRATION because I know that this rookie step leads to more learning and earnings to come!
If you cannot spend all that time with your kids, give them quality time. That is, even if all you had was 5 minutes in a day, give them your whole attention in that 5 minutes, be fully present for them.
Being fully present is what I have been learning as a play therapist for my son, Nathan, who has autism. It has also helped me deepen my relationships with all my kids. I give my typical child, Ian, very little time, compared to my special-needs twins. However, I’m confident in the strong relationship he wants to build with me, simply because of the quality of the time I give him.
In the photo: I was in the playroom, doing play therapy for my Nathan, when Ian, popped in and wanted to play with us. I welcomed him to the game. He was so silly and engaging that Nathan kept asking him to be a monkey.